Pep Talks
Fundamentals of Realating
A 12-Week Deep Dive in Rewiring the Way We Connect
April 1st — June 20th, 2025
Develop social ease, emotional intelligence, and the ability to navigate interactions in with depth and confidence.
Welcome.
Welcome exactly as you are.
I’m honored that you chose to be a part of this.
Below is an overview of each session we’ll have together, and how to access them.
Recordings and other resource materials will be added to this page as well.
So it’s a good idea to add this to your bookmarks.
See you on the inside!
Session Schedule
Week 1 — Welcoming
Weekly Workshop:
Date and time:
April 1st, 2025 — 17:30 CEST – 20:30 CEST
Recording:
https://drive.google.com/drive/folders/1cV_VYbSNUImtPhn0U0QZCJ_tQNRN6bW3
Listicles:
5 core practices of Authentic Relating (as defined by ART International):
- Welcome everything
- Assume nothing
- Reveal your experience
- Own your experience
- Honor self and other
6 levels of conversational depth:
- External information
- Personal information
- Personal stories
- Philosophizing
- Emotional
- Relational
Week 1 practices:
1. As you go through your week, exploriment with “welcoming everything” and observe.
2. Practicing noticing which level of conversational depth you are in, and play with moving between them.
Further Reading:
Book: “Conflict = Energy” by Jason Digges (core practices of authentic relating)
Book: “Radical Acceptance” by Tara Brach (welcoming what happens)
Book: “Self-Compassion” by Kristen Neff (welcoming how you’re handling it)
Book: “Effortless” by yours truly (welcoming every aspect of yourself)
Thread: 6 Levels of Conversation
Article: 6 Levels of Conversation
Integration Call:
Date and time:
April 4th, 2025 — 17:30 CEST – 19:00 CEST
Recording:
https://drive.google.com/file/d/1o89M9utvQnPGdudhCFrT8wgvCG1VRVO7/
Week 2 — Staying In Reality
Weekly Workshop:
Date and time:
April 8th, 2025 — 17:30 CEST – 20:30 CEST
Recording:
https://drive.google.com/file/d/16pBDeHflD5hRioUTOmAj89YV2UxMQp-g/
Listicles:
The Work (by Byron Katie):
1. Is it true?
2. Can I absolutely know it’s true?
3. How do I feel (and react) when I believe it?
4. Who would I be without this thought?
The window of resilience (will be looked at in depth later on):
Week 2 practices:
As you go through your week:
Further Reading:
Book: “The 4 Agreements” by Don Miguel Ruiz (includes the practice)
Book: “Loving What Is” by Byron Katie (the work)
Book: “The Book of Not Knowing” by Peter Ralston (unknowing)
Book: “A Course In Miracles” by Foundation for Inner Peace (spiritual approach to undamning)
Book: “Effortless” by yours truly (undamning ourselves + words that don’t point at reality)
Article: Separating Facts from Stories
Integration Call:
Date and time:
April 11th, 2025 — 17:30 CEST – 19:00 CEST
Recording:
https://us06web.zoom.us/rec/share/a-_jMgIvALJs_e9UQUUj0qyrOS4Aah7SCPMjTUnMkDGvg2clFd6mxrW07Ubi24SD.WD5Y6tXVAdIT1G8I?startTime=1744385595000
Passcode: q^26+635
Week 3 — Revealing
Weekly Workshop:
Date and time:
April 15th, 2025 — 17:30 CEST – 20:30 CEST
Recording:
https://us06web.zoom.us/rec/share/ReW0mbN3C-usx8i4M2mmHhLZwNMtD9eT_rQKdR6TJBbJ6LPmWOwflDDNHjAhK_c.Aoe36S0BbgDQ6O1G
Passcode: c?P?5tXC
Listicles:
5 principles of presence (as defined by Margo Greenwood):
1. Embodiment
2. Unknowing
3. Vulnerability
4. ???
5. ???
Week 3 practices:
1. Practice revealing your experience and notice what happens.
Further Reading:
Book: “Daring Greatly” by Brené Brown (vulnerability)
Book: “Radical Honesty” by Brad Blanton (releasing repressed emotions through revealing them)
Article: The Nuance on Vulnerability
Integration Call:
Date and time:
April 18th, 2025 — 17:30 CEST – 19:00 CEST
Recording:
https://us06web.zoom.us/rec/share/S91mfsi2Of-9F3GBsc48M_LRPOr1gtuoWMJT1aIFHrvBB496saXx3kzZQfHJW3cn.4ECpeEsdO6V4cZcd
Passcode: hRFmj8&0
Week 4 — Curiosity and Empathy
Weekly Workshop:
Date and time:
April 22nd, 2025 — 17:30 CEST – 20:30 CEST
Recording:
https://us06web.zoom.us/rec/share/vZLXIw1zfYkL-RPoe6ONwMFGceXqGeSFVpjurPihDLPPfX4NfXxBqJmO_8g5nlvb.u5CofkJOd6D2GHkz
Passcode: wOq.v5*?
Listicles:
3 levels of listening (as defined by ART International):
1. WHAT is being communicated?
2. HOW is it being communicated?
3. WHY is it communicated?
5 levels of empathy (as defined by me, currently):
1. Cognitive empathy
2. Contextual empathy
3. Personal empathy
4. Affective empathy
5. Grokking
5 practices of Circling (as defined by “Relatefulness” and “Transformational Connection” in Europe):
1. Commitment to connection
2. Own your experience
3. Stay with the level of sensation
4. ???
5. Be with the other in their world
Week 4 practices:
As you go through your week:
Further Reading:
Book: “7000 Ways to Listen” by Mark Nepo (listening to life itself)
Book: “Getting the Love You Want” (listening to your partner + undamning each other)
Video: “Brené Brown on Empathy“
Thread: “Empathy is often misunderstood (how ironic).“
Important:
There is no integration call on Friday for this week.
Week 5 — Ownership and Responsibility
Weekly Workshop:
Date and time:
April 28th, 2025 — 17:30 CEST – 20:30 CEST
Recording:
https://us06web.zoom.us/rec/share/DBOygw4slajiOE-KHtc0z_xGnTupTjV5Mls85xWJfMsqfo9XnAFPJMXHNWqKduUJ.Un_j16W026VpDbMl
Passcode: @^Z96rfn
Week 5 practices:
As you go through your week:
1. Try and practice owning your experience, particularly using “I statements”, in moments when you feel it isn’t emotionally challenging.
2. In situations when you know it would be good to own your experience but it feels unavailable or scary to do so: Write down why. (We can use this in next week’s session.)
3. Practice sharing “truths” with people in this WhatsApp group:
“_(person’s name/entire), when you __ (identify a particular, unarguable moment or experience), I felt __(share an emotion)”
You can also share them addressed to the entire group.
Further Reading:
Book: “Nonviolent Communication” by Marshal Rosenberg (observation vs. evaluation, and lots of info on owning your experience in speech)
Book: “Extreme Ownership” by Jocko Willink (ownership as an attitude)
Book: “Radical Responsibility” by Fleet Maull (ownership as an attitude, including in relationships)
Book: “The 5 Personality Patterns” by Steven Kessler (character structures)
Article: “How to Save the World from Nazis, Escape the Matrix and Finally Get a Six Pack” (reclaiming your power)
Thread: “Receiving Compliments Fully“
Integration Call:
Date and time:
May 2nd, 2025 — 17:30 CEST – 19:00 CEST
Recording:
https://us06web.zoom.us/rec/share/zBGnDTMNca7r_vyLRAQzKvdSnSJWowiPh7hP_CpyeL06Nv54qmVLjUjDDXh_epFD.jWgPDG-GZFMQj9-X
Passcode: Fw+V7aTk
Week 6 — Needs, Wants and Strategies
Weekly Workshop:
Date and time:
May 6th, 2025 — 17:30 CEST – 20:30 CEST
Recording:
https://us06web.zoom.us/rec/share/LicGmiPEZFSZv9F3lZ263D3dFe8_oqyI3M-F1sM3YuivI6_1YpPqPGlSWcfGjiZi.y5IcyMSyHOpinE-P
Passcode: Ru4Fd$Hp
Listicles:
8 Core fears (as defined by ART International):
1. Fear of abandonment
2. Fear of being controlled
3. Fear of being ignored / invisible
4. Fear of rejection
5. Fear of criticism
6. Fear of inadequacy / failure
7. Fear of being trapped
8. Fear of being misunderstood
4 childhood attachment needs (as defined by Susan Campbell):
1. Protection
2. Loving attention
3. Guidance and encouragement –
4. Co-regulation
5 universal human needs (as defined by Marshall Rosenberg):
1. Connection
2. Physical well-being
3. Autonomy
4. Meaning
5. Play
Pseudofeelings:
Week 6 practices:
As you go through your week:
Further Reading:
Book: “Addicted to Love” by Jan Geurtz (how our personalities are shaped as strategies to meet our needs)
Book: “From Triggered to Tranquil” by Susan Campbell (identifying the needs underneath our triggers)
Video: NVC San Francisco Workshop
Integration Call:
Date and time:
May 9th, 2025 — 17:30 CEST – 19:00 CEST
Zoom link (different each time):
https://us06web.zoom.us/j/82057738393
Meeting ID: 820 5773 8393
Recording:
(Link to the recording will get added after the session happened 😉 )
Week 7 — Honoring Self and Other
Weekly Workshop:
Date and time:
May 13th, 2025 — 17:30 CEST – 20:30 CEST
Zoom link (recurring for Tuesday workshops):
https://us06web.zoom.us/j/89286816358
Meeting ID: 892 8681 6358
Recording:
(Link to the recording will get added after the session happened 😉 )
Integration Call:
Date and time:
May 16th, 2025 — 17:30 CEST – 19:00 CEST
Zoom link (different each time):
https://us06web.zoom.us/j/84845929654
Meeting ID: 848 4592 9654
Recording:
(Link to the recording will get added after the session happened 😉 )
Week 8 — Giving and Receiving
Weekly Workshop:
Date and time:
May 20th, 2025 — 17:30 CEST – 20:30 CEST
Zoom link (recurring for Tuesday workshops):
https://us06web.zoom.us/j/89286816358
Meeting ID: 892 8681 6358
Recording:
(Link to the recording will get added after the session happened 😉 )
Important:
There is no Friday integration call for this week.
Week 9 — Conflict Transformation
Weekly Workshop:
Date and time:
May 27th, 2025 — 17:30 CEST – 20:30 CEST
Zoom link (recurring for Tuesday workshops):
https://us06web.zoom.us/j/89286816358
Meeting ID: 892 8681 6358
Recording:
(Link to the recording will get added after the session happened 😉 )
Integration Call:
Date and time:
May 30th, 2025 — 17:30 CEST – 19:00 CEST
Zoom link (different each time):
https://us06web.zoom.us/j/86398399149
Meeting ID: 863 9839 9149
Recording:
(Link to the recording will get added after the session happened 😉 )
Week 10 — Subtext, Vibe and Energetics
Weekly Workshop:
Date and time:
June 3rd, 2025 — 17:30 CEST – 20:30 CEST
Zoom link (recurring for Tuesday workshops):
https://us06web.zoom.us/j/89286816358
Meeting ID: 892 8681 6358
Recording:
(Link to the recording will get added after the session happened 😉 )
Integration Call:
Date and time:
June 6th, 2025 — 17:30 CEST – 19:00 CEST
Zoom link (different each time):
https://us06web.zoom.us/j/83761191543
Meeting ID: 837 6119 1543
Recording:
(Link to the recording will get added after the session happened 😉 )
Week 11 — Wholeness
Weekly Workshop:
Date and time:
June 10th, 2025 — 17:30 CEST – 20:30 CEST
Zoom link (recurring for Tuesday workshops):
https://us06web.zoom.us/j/89286816358
Meeting ID: 892 8681 6358
Recording:
(Link to the recording will get added after the session happened 😉 )
Integration Call:
Date and time:
June 13th, 2025 — 17:30 CEST – 19:00 CEST
Zoom link (different each time):
https://us06web.zoom.us/j/82983189975
Meeting ID: 829 8318 9975
Recording:
(Link to the recording will get added after the session happened 😉 )
Week 12 — Awesomeness
Weekly Workshop:
Date and time:
June 17th, 2025 — 17:30 CEST – 20:30 CEST
Zoom link (recurring for Tuesday workshops):
https://us06web.zoom.us/j/89286816358
Meeting ID: 892 8681 6358
Recording:
(Link to the recording will get added after the session happened 😉 )
Integration Call:
Date and time:
June 20th, 2025 — 17:30 CEST – 19:00 CEST
Zoom link (different each time):
https://us06web.zoom.us/j/87911786061
Meeting ID: 879 1178 6061
Recording:
(Link to the recording will get added after the session happened 😉 )
Post-cohort Integration Calls
After week 12, there will be 2 more integration calls as part of the cohort.
The date for these is yet to be decided together, to ensure everyone can be a part of them.
From there on, you will have the possibility to join monthly workshops which continue to build on the practices we learned during the cohort.
1:1 Support
If you need additional 1:1 support around the topics from any of the session, you can freely schedule a call with me, using this link (availability will be added to the scheduler once cohort start).
Additional Questions?
If you have any remaining questions about this course, you can always reach out to me via email:
pep (at) peptalksblog.com