The life cycle of relationships is a fascinating thing. (And when I say “relationships” I mean that in the broadest sense: friendships, acquaintances, etc.) There’s an ebb and flow of the distance between people who share a part of each other’s...
In today’s workshop, a question came up that made me want to share this technique with a participant: How to catch your triggers early, so you can do something before they become overwhelming. Luckily for you, the workshop didn’t have enough space for a...
Different situations cause us to develop different relationship skills. One example of this that I spend a lot of time thinking about is how the relational landscape is completely different for us in the 21st century than the centuries before. In a world where divorce...
A lot of social situations that feel icky could’ve been prevented by getting proper buy-in up front. If you’re the person feeling the ick, there’s not much you can do about that (except for sending them what I’m about to write). However,...
Lately I’ve been blocking or unfollowing a bunch of my friends and loved ones on Instagram. —But wait, why would you even do that? They’re your friends.— Ah, indeed! A common mistake I made myself as well. I felt really conflicted about this. I love these...
I found this old note with a list of questions I was playing with in conversations. Using pre-written questions is something I rarely do anymore, because I find that the best questions arise from whatever it is that the other person evokes a desire in us to know the...
