“Victim mentality” is a common buzzword in personal development….but did you know it’s just one piece of a larger, often dysfunctional dynamic? And that it rarely exists in isolation? That’s right ladies and gents: You better ask your bestie to...
The idea of “not giving a fuck” is often presented in pop culture as a kind of ultimate freedom—feeling unbothered by criticism, expectations, or failures. But in reality, like so many ideas we humans love to entertain, it’s mostly an illusion—and, in my humble...
Do you sometimes feel like people take advantage of your generosity? Or that it would be hard to assert your boundaries without disrespecting others? While growing up, many of us develop certain “personality traits” to get our needs met. Since this usually happens at...
Do you have someone in your life whom you regularly spend time with…but there’s always a sense of tension or negativity between you? Maybe this person is a co-worker. Maybe they’re a part of your extended friend group. Or even an imaginary friend you don’t get...
Ever find yourself secretly getting bored in the middle of a conversation? Maybe even in moments where you and the other(s) do want to connect but it still feels dry, stuck, or just doesn’t go anywhere? While it’s common to blame this on a cultural...
A perspective I’ve been playing a lot with lately is that many of the emotions we feel are actually not ours. Our emotions by nature are always changing. We may experience some of them as permanent states. But that’s either because we’re holding on to them or...